Surrogacy Series #6- Finishing the First Trimester

Hi all!  As many of you know, Baby Kent may be here ANY DAY NOW!  I am going CRAZY.  We were so busy during the holidays and it went by so fast.  But now that January has hit, time seems to be going by….so…….slowly.  I am praying for loads of patience because I know every day she is still in utero, she continues to grow and develop.

BUT, with all this extra time, I can get caught up on our surrogacy story!

Our story picks up after our first, successful ultrasound.  Again, we were THRILLED, but the thought of an impending miscarriage kept trying to steal our joy.  During these precious weeks, I trained myself to focus only on today and pray for grace and strength to live out whatever was going to happen.  It brought me some peace, but it was hard not to be on edge.

Thankfully, when you do IVF or a FET, you get TONS of ultrasounds.  Our doctor let us come in every week until we “graduated” at 10 weeks to our regular OB.  Each week, our baby continued to grow and I began to take a deep breath.  It was amazing to see how much had changed each week!
IMG_5566 IMG_5652 Stacy also started to feel pregnant.  In other words, VERY sick.  I felt terrible for her.  She had “all day” morning sickness and was very sensitive to smells.  She made her husband, Justin, stop wearing cologne for a while.  She had to change her shampoo THREE times because the smell kept making her gag in the shower.  Stacy, being the person she is, had such a good attitude about the whole thing,  Although I felt so sad she was feeling sick, we both agreed that the strong symptoms probably indicated a healthy and thriving pregnancy. For that, we were very thankful!

But, I still felt bad!  I made her this first trimester basket.  It included sparkling water, pickles (she actually had some cravings for them!), ginger pills, Morning Wellness Tea, Saltine crackers, Preggie Pop Drops, firming butter and Mama Bee Nourishing Body Oil.  I hope it helped a little with the symptoms!

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We had fun getting to know Stacy and her whole family!  We planned a BBQ at her house and it was fun to watch Jack play with her kids.  It was so amazing to watch our relationship grow.  We didn’t know each other at all (well, we met ONCE) before she offered to do this for us.  Starting off like that makes things very personal very quickly.  But I was so surprised and happy at how smoothly it went.  It felt like we had been friends for years!

We finally had our “graduation” appointment at 10 weeks.  We hugged our fertility doctor goodbye and promised to update her.  The staff was so amazing and it was bittersweet leaving their care.  They gave us a graduation present- a bag of goodies and a “Miracle Baby” onsie.

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We had our regular OB appointment a few weeks later.  It was only a few days before the 12 week mark of the pregnancy. Again, we got to see our growing baby on the ultrasound and everything was growing just as it should.   Hitting the end of the first trimester milestone was huge.  At this point, the risks for miscarriage go down significantly.  There was still a chance that something could happen, but reaching this point was a miracle for us.

But for those of you who have gone through pregnancy loss, I don’t think you take that final deep breath until that child is in your arms.

For me, I am still waiting to take that breath.

Any day now….

2 Comments

2 Comments on Surrogacy Series #6- Finishing the First Trimester

  1. Peggy Chambers says:

    I am so excited for you all! Can’t wait to hear that the baby has been born ❤️
    So Bonnie, how did you train yourself to live for just today? I would love any tips.

  2. Darla Kuper says:

    So excited for you all! Praying for all the days ahead. Love you all xoxoox

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