Hi all! Apparently, last time I got a little too confident about blogging weekly. Justin started a new job and it has been a bit of a struggle adjusting to our new schedule and all the moving parts that come with having two full time jobs and raising a three year old. But writing is important to me and I am going to need to learn to squeeze it in somewhere!
Stacy had been faithfully following the protocol leading up to this day. She had graciously been administering drugs and shots to get her body ready to actually transfer the embryos. She passed all the requirements and we got the green light to proceed with the transfer as scheduled.
This day has always been a day full of many powerful emotions for me. I had experienced 5 of them at the time of this story, so I knew the drill by heart. I knew about getting the call from the embryologist in the morning, the long drive up to Del Mar, sitting in the waiting room with clenched hands and nervous minds, meeting the embryologist and seeing a picture of our little babies, the relatively painless and fast process of transferring the embryos, laying in the dark and quiet room alone in my thoughts and prayers afterward, and the equally long drive home with the astonishing feeling that there were now more than just the two of us in the car.
Hi all! I am hoping to get back in the groove of writing every week. I realized that if I don’t keep up, I will have a NEWBORN before I know it and time for writing might not be as readily available.
But believe me, I won’t be complaining. I can’t wait until this baby is born!!!
But now I am just getting ahead of the story! Back to where we were….
In my last post, I talked about the difficulty we had in making the decision to take yet another risk to build our family. But ultimately, we decided to go for it! Justin and Stacy had waited patiently. When we finally told them that we wanted to move forward, we all couldn’t believe it was actually going to happen!
But first, we had to get through the screening process. (more…)
We had just received the generous and unexpected offer from Stacy and her husband, Justin for surrogacy. I was in the in the middle of a FET round (although our official baseline appointment wasn’t for a few more days), so we told them that if this round didn’t work, we would talk to them about it for our next and final round. (more…)
I hope your summer is wrapping up nicely. I took a few weeks off after our BIG ANNOUNCEMENT! If you haven’t seen our video, you need to stop and watch it right now. Or else….none of this will make sense!
And if you haven’t read about our adoption reclaim, you can read about it here.
With Stacy’s blessing, I have decided to keep writing while I document this AMAZING surrogacy process. It is a once in a lifetime experience and I am trying to soak up every minute. And I am constantly trying to find and follow other surrogate journeys, so I am happy to throw my thoughts out there for those coming behind us!
For organizational sake, I think I will do 3 series documenting each trimester. So welcome to the first installment of my Surrogacy First Trimester Series. Here we go….. (more…)
After I posted about our hospital experience, my (new) friend, Rebecca Vahle, reached out to me through my site and asked if I would be her guest on her radio show, Adoption Perspectives.
I was thrilled to hear from her because I already knew of her! During my prep for the hospital experience, I was reading and listening to anything I could get my hands on. Rebecca was a guest on a podcast I listened to and she discussed the importance of making a hospital plan before the birth in an open adoption. Although our facilitator was already doing that with us, listening to Rebecca speak about her experiences during this emotional time really prepared our family for our own experience. She founded the Family to Family Support Network. Their mission statement is:
Empowering healthcare workers and families through adoption education, support and community connection.(more…)
I have been looking forward to this day. As much as I have loved the journey of documenting this adoption story, I am ready to write the last page. It is one of my favorite pages of this story because it includes you all- my beautiful community that surrounded us in the blackest night.
Have you read the first 7 posts in this series? If not, I would recommend that you stop and get caught up. If you subscribe to my email list, you will get my posts right in your inbox. I want to say a huge THANK YOU to all of you who have shared my blog. I have received countless messages from men and women all over the country and have connected with some families who have gone through something similar. Thank you for helping me share this story.
In my last post, we had just given BabyG back to her birthmom and became a family of three once again.
I remember going home that night and walking back into the house. To the left of the door was her swing. On the couch, there was a forgotten hair bow and pair of socks. In the kitchen sink, bottles waited to be washed. In her room, her crib with the pink sheet was empty.(more…)
I woke up feeling angsty today. I am not quite sure why I would feel that way after a fun filled weekend with friends and family, but I did. I didn’t plan on writing this post today, but with my current mood, it just seemed right.
This morning, I quickly finished up a few things for work, picked up some Starbucks and now I am sitting in front of a beautiful lake and a blank page. I guess it is now or never…
This is my seventh post of eight in our adoption story blog series. As always, please get caught up and subscribe to my email list. If you wouldn’t mind, if this blog has meant something to you, would you consider sharing my blog on Facebook or on another social media outlet? I apologize for the shameless plea, but my hope is that this story will find its way to those out there that need to hear it. And that requires some sharing. Thanks guys!
To pick up where we left off, we had just gone to bed on day 19 of 20.
I certainly woke up feeling anxious that following morning. It was the weekend in between celebrating Jack’s birthday and Christmas. Every year, we celebrate Christmas over three days- starting on the 23rd. If we were going to be giving BabyG back to her birthmom, I wanted it to happen on one of these “in between” days. Since Jack’s party was over, we were now in that time pocket. The anxiety continued to escalate. (more…)
Happy Friday, everyone! As always, please get caught upbefore reading this post. Also, please make sure to subscribe by email if you would like to be reminded of posts.
As a little housekeeping note- there will be two more posts in this series after this one. I didn’t realize how much I had to cover, but I am so thankful I have been able to process and write about each step. It has been a little hard going back and if I am being honest, I am ready to move on from this chapter of our story. However, I know in the future, I will be glad that I finished strong. It has been a healing exercise to work through for both Justin and me.
In my last post, we had just signed the release papers and left the hospital with BabyG. The ride home was a bit solemn as we processed everything we had just witnessed at the hospital. We were both lost in thought as the car rounded the curves of the road as we headed home. She slept almost the entire 2.5 hours, with a quick stop to feed her. (more…)